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By Henry, June 28, 2009 3:45 pm

Understanding Love and Attraction from a Daoist (Taoist) Perspective

Love and sexual attraction transcend the boundaries of race, class and even gender/sexual preference.

Most people are familiar with the Daoist (Taoist) concept of Yin and Yang. It is used in Chinese philosophy to describe and understand how seemingly opposing forces are in fact deeply interconnected and interdependent in the natural world. While they oppose each other, they co-exist in a dynamic equilibrium. If one disappears, so does the other.

In the realm of love and sexual attraction, Yin and Yang’s opposing energies create sexual polarity. A healthy relationship is often rooted in this harmony and balance of opposites. When this polarity is neutralized, oftentimes so is the attraction. Maintaining this polarity is important for lasting and fulfilling relationships.

Understanding Your Essence
While Yin is associated with the feminine essence and Yang with the masculine essence (Yang), our sexual essence and our physical gender as men or women do not necessarily have to be the same. There exist men with strong feminine essence and women with strong masculine essence. This applies whether your sexual preference is gay or straight.

Whatever your sexual essence, it is important to be aware of what it is and how you are projecting it. You tend to attract your opposite so if you are in your masculine, you’ll attract someone who is feminine and vice versa. If you are not attracting the type you want to be romantically involved with or if you feel like your current relationship is losing its spark, examine what you are projecting.

Love with Sexual Attraction
Love and sexual attraction aren’t necessarily one and the same. There are plenty of couples out there who are still together long after the sexual attraction is gone. They can still love each other very much. But then it becomes a relationship between best friends rather than lovers. If you want to experience the spark, excitement and magnetic attraction of a relationship that is emotionally, spiritually and sexually satisfying, you have to create and maintain sexual polarity.

I’m writing this on the 40th anniversary of Stonewall. Reflecting upon this day, love is a beautiful thing that should be celebrated and embraced without the judgments, restrictions and expectations imposed by culture, religion and fear. Help work towards moving our society beyond existing boundaries such as race, class and gender/sexual preference.

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By Henry, May 22, 2009 4:39 pm

David Deida

The Sexual Body and the Yoga of Light:
A Weekend Workshop with David Deida, San Diego, November 6, 7, 8, 2009

Join David right on the beach at the luxurious Rancho Bernardo Inn Resort and Spa for this breakthrough weekend.

During the weekend, you will…

• Discover how to use the body as a vehicle for ecstatic dissolution;
• Understand why our deepest sexual gifts are often capped by our most intense resistance, and how to relax through blocks in our sexual artistry;
• Follow the course from scary neediness, through safe independence, into the oneness of perfect trust in devotional love;
• Find out how to turn hang-ups into playful gifts of loving humor in the midst of erotic embrace;
• Comprehend why honest and respectful communication can be very different from passionate and heart-awakening sex talk; and
• Learn breathing techniques to increase, decrease, and circulate sexual love-energy.

What many people don’t know is that every Weekend Workshop is unique and unpredictable. There is no “rote” program. Quite the opposite! In fact, the work in the room grows specifically from your interaction with David. To get a flavor of what happens inside the Workshop, here are a few voices from last year’s participants…

“David is hilarious — and a genius on stage. Awesome!”

“This was amazing — a chance to experience the vitality of David’s presence. I knew it would be great but the opportunity for direct learning from David Deida via people asking questions and David directly coaching them was extraordinary!”

“Being with David in person was amazing. His physicality brings tremendous depth to the lessons and practice and meaning of his words!”

“I loved the partner exercise where we stared into each others eyes and spoke about our desire for one another. I SAW the light, quite literally, in the man opposite me!”

“As a woman, I learned how to embody the divine feminine and move in and out of 3rd stage with grace and beauty. This intensive is the way to enlightenment for anyone…”

“How much more powerful David’s work is in person vs. on the page! It was simply PROFOUND!

Please come to the Workshop with your most pressing questions and challenges. Among the many avenues David will explore with you

• Why is feminine energy extremely attractive yet mistrusted by both men and women?
• Why do many men resist marriage even when they are totally in love?
• Why are the five biggest turn-ons for women different than those for men?
• Why is the word “surrender” so offensive to some people and so erotic to others?
• What are the spiritual prerequisites for experiencing the ultimate sexual embrace?
• What must you risk in order to experience deep sexual union and emotional communion?
• Why is it impossible to grow spiritually without embracing our darkest impulses?

“What a weekend! These were life-altering views to transform heart, sex, love and being em-body-ment. Beyond words!”

“I would tell anybody that this weekend would teach you how to live your life with purpose, be true to your mission on earth and to love completely.”

SCHEDULE:

The Workshop begins 7 PM sharp on Friday, November 6. We will finish Friday night’s session at 10 PM. Saturday and Sunday’s session will go from 10 AM till 10 PM with breaks. David will sometimes go beyond 10 PM but no one is required to stay past 10.

LOCATION:

Rancho Bernardo Inn Resort and Spa, with its rural setting, gardens, legendary spa will provide a unique, powerful and relaxing environment for the Weekend. We have arranged a large block of discount rooms for participants, but they are not unlimited. Please reserve your room early. As a service to you, we also create a message board if you would like to share a room with another participant.

NOTE: This Weekend Workshop is open to singles and couples of any sexual orientation. Participants should be prepared for explicit use of language and intensive experiential practice. Actual sex and nudity are not involved.

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By Henry, May 19, 2009 11:46 am

David Deida

Aligning with Love: The Yoga of Sex, Wealth, and Worship
A Weekend Workshop With David Deida, Miami, October 2, 3, 4, 2009

The Sexual Body and the Yoga of Light:
A Weekend Workshop with David Deida, San Diego, November 6, 7, 8, 2009

The Sexual Body and the Yoga of Light:
A 7-Day Training Intensive with David Deida in San Diego, November 6-13, 2009

This 7-Day Intensive is David Deida’s advanced training for men and women ready to illuminate the unseen depths and shadows of their being. Practitioners from all over the world gather with Deida for an unparalleled opportunity to explore every nook and cranny of their psyche and desire. Journeying solo, partnered, and in groups, virtually no stone is left unturned in seven days and nights of investigation, insight, and celebration.

In this 7-Day training we go far beyond the weekend and dive deeply into advanced practices that enhance our heart’s depth and presence, turning lovemaking into whole-body prayer and true spiritual communion as we learn how to create and sustain the authentic yoga of intimacy throughout the days and nights of our years.

What are you really here to do–professionally, intimately, artistically–and how committed are you to doing and living it? To get there, Deida teaches, we need to surrender to the boundless self that we truly are and learn to live in the unbearable pleasure and vulnerability of that exquisite state of openness. And most of us require a dedicated practice, a living yoga, in order to sustain this.

During this training, we engage in practices that focus on where we are most contracted, and “for a lot of people that means sexuality, life-purpose, and intimacy,” says Deida. We spend our time deepening and fine-tuning personal practices, both in and out of the classroom, using traditional means such as breathwork, meditation, yoga, and dance, as well as the custom-designed personal practices for which David Deida is so widely hailed. Working in groups, with partners, and individually, we learn to:

* identify our unique gifts and give them more fully;
* learn when to respect boundaries and when to press through them;
* ease beyond fear into ecstatic surrender;
* open out in connection when all we want to do is close down;
* employ ecstasy to heal past wounds and melt open beyond the self;
* offer our deepest presence and love;
* skillfully navigate the differences between men’s and women’s internal sexual circuitry;
* discover how to access the freedom of consciousness and humor amidst anger, lust, and jealousy;
* design a deeply personal spiritual life; and
* create a daily sexual yoga practice, solo and in partnership, that will continue to grow along with the depth of our heart’s desire to turn our entire life into an artful, whole-body offering of love.

Whereas “healing old wounds” is most fruitful amidst patience and firm boundaries, the yoga of transformation that Deida teaches involves carefully stretching to play at your vulnerable edge and just beyond, including your limits and gifts of body, mind, and emotion. Just as you are, sourced in loving awareness, no subject is taboo. All fixations and unique twists of character are welcomed with compassion and humor. Every struggle and life situation is workable in this teaching. Together with an international gathering of men and women dedicated to authentic spiritual practice, you will have the opportunity to go as deep as you choose:

* explore all of your real desires, dark and light, in a compassionate and skillful setting;
* learn how to create a spiritual portal through the sexual act;
* determine when to heal restfully and when to leap beyond being frozen in terror;
* learn the artful use of natural substances, sex, music, and nature to enliven the creative matrix of your life’s offering;
* investigate your taboos and learn how to offer love’s gift in moments of resistance and closure;
* understand the powerful sexual dynamics of money;
* discover the difference between emotional neediness and devotional yearning;
* illuminate the “cult” blueprint often hidden in teacher/student and lover/beloved intimacies;
* develop your capacity for sustaining radical relationship through heartbreak and comfort;
* uncover your deepest purpose and learn why you haven’t yet fully offered yourself;
* familiarize yourself with the basics of straight and gay sexual yoga (and everything in between); and
* cultivate the true yoga of light, bringing authentic presence and bright love to the places in your life and relationships that many are hesitant to illuminate

Participants should be prepared for explicit use of language and intensive experiential practice. Actual sex and nudity are not involved in this training. Precise rules of relating between all participants creates a safe space for magnifying love’s free flow throughout the training. This 7-Day Intensive and the Weekend Workshop are open to singles and couples of any sexual orientation, with a strong emphasis on personal instruction and one-to-one feedback and refinement. Enrollment in this training is by application only.